Sam Pinn Chronicles

As a young girl I loved reading Fairytales which would usually end with the Prince who won the heart of the Princess, they got married and lived happily ever after. This is what I believed true love is and what happened in real life, but having grown up I sit back and reflect on the teachings of these fairytales and wonder how misguided they are. For those of you who are married you know that as thrilling as the chase was and as whirlwind as your relationship may have been, it is not truly the only hard work required in your relationship and in the words of Beyoncé "putting a ring on it" does not mean that you can now just sit back and enjoy the spoils of your hard work. On the contrary the hard work begins when you say I do, not because there is anything wrong with the person you chose or that your relationship is doomed but simply because any great marriage requires work. Lets take my life as an example, I met my husband at the end of my high school career at the age o

Over the last few weeks I have had the same statement told to me in different situations "You are too nice". This has really got me thinking that people perceive someone who is nice as a weakness or a flaw and this is not just in the working environment but society as a whole. For anyone that knows me they will say I am a nice person, friendly and always willing to help, does this then mean that I am perceived to have less respect or power/command than someone who is loud, ruthless or puts the fear of God in someone when they speak? I honestly don't agree, I believe that when you treat others with the respect and dignity that we would like to be treated with, this earns us the desired respect of others and that they are far more willing to listen to what you have to say. The reality is that as nice as I am, I have the ability to be harsh or stern when needed and I am most certainly not a pushover (just ask my kids or hubby lol). You need to have a balance of being

There are very few times in my life that I have failed or felt sheer disappointment in myself, today was one of those days. I started my distance learning BComm 3 years ago and this semester I did my first two 3rd year modules. I managed to receive a distinction for my one module and failed the other (two extreme opposites, go figure). I cant even begin to describe the gut wrenching feeling I felt when I received the result with the word FAIL on it, such a simple word with such negative connotations to it. For those that know me, you will know that I am somewhat of a perfectionist, I am so critical of myself and always expect the best of me so hearing that I was none of these ultimately felt like my world was crashing. The disappointment stems from the fact that I am currently receiving a bursary so failing is not even an option given the financial implications of having to pay out of my own pocket to redo the module again but the biggest thing ultimately is having to redo the m